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Inkululeko yokukhuluma ingenye yamalungelo aziswa kakhulu nayisisekelo emiphakathini yentando yeningi emhlabeni wonke. Kuyisimiso esisekela inkululeko yomuntu ngamunye noma yomphakathi ukuba iqondise imibono yawo ngaphandle kokwesaba ukuziphindiselela, ukucubungula, noma ukugunyaza okungokomthetho. Lelilungelo elinamandla lisiza izakhamuzi ukuba zihlanganyele ngokunengqondo enkulu enkulu enkulumweni yasobala, inselele, ibambe ohulumeni ukuba balandise, futhi lithelele ezindaweni zokudayisa imibono eqhubezela intuthuko yezenhlalo. Nokho, ngalenkululeko ejulile ifika umthwalo obalulekile ngokufanayo wokuyisebenzisa ngokucabangela, ngokwezimiso zokuziphatha, nangenhlonipho.

Ukusetshenziswa okuphumelelayo kwenkululeko yokukhuluma kudinga okungaphezu kokwazi nje ukuthi unelungelo lokukhuluma, kudinga ukuqonda izimpawu zokukhulumisana, ukuqaphela ithonya lamazwi akho, nokuhlanganyela nabanye ngezindlela ezithuthukisa ukuqonda kunokuba kuhlukane. Esikhathini sezokuxhumana, ukuxhumana okusheshayo, kanye nenkulumo yasobala ehlukene ngokwengeziwe, ukufunda indlela yokusebenzisa inkululeko yakho yokukhuluma ngokuphumelelayo nenhlonipho ayikaze ibe ebaluleke kakhulu. Lesiqondiso esibanzi sihlola amasu awusizo, imingcele engokomthetho, izindlela zokukhulumisana, nokucabangela okungokokuziphatha okuyokusiza ukuba usebenzise amalungelo akho okukhuluma ngezindlela ezikhuthaza ingxoxo ekhuthaza ukukhulumisana nenhlonipho yomunye.

Ukuqonda Isisekelo Samalungelo Okukhuluma

Ilungelo lenkululeko yokukhuluma liye laqashelwa njengelungelo lomuntu eSivumelwaneni somhlaba wonke samalungelo abantu (UDHR) nasemthetho wamalungelo abantu wezizwe zonke. E-United States, iSichibiyelo sokuqala soMthetho-sisekelo wase-U.S. sivikela "inkululeko yokukhuluma," kodwa leyosivikelo asiphelele. Ukuqonda umongo wendaba nesisekelo sefilosofi senkululeko yokukhuluma kusisiza ukuba siqonde kokubili ukubaluleka nokulinganiselwa kwayo.

Abahleli boMthetho-sisekelo wase-U.S. baqaphela ukuthi emphakathini okhululekile, izakhamuzi kumelwe zikwazi ukugxeka uhulumeni wazo, ukusekela ushintsho, futhi ziveze imibono ephikisanayo ngaphandle kokwesaba ushushiso. Lesi simiso savela emakhulwini amaningi eminyaka okulwisana nokubusa kobushiqela okuqeda ukuphikiswa futhi okulawula inkulumo yasobala. Inkululeko yokukhuluma iyisici esibalulekile senkululeko evimbela ukubusa ngonya futhi inika abantu amandla. Uma izakhamuzi zingakhuluma ngokukhululekile, zingadalula ukonakala, zibekela imithetho engalungile inselele, futhi zihlanganyele enqubweni yentando yeningi ethonya umphakathi wazo.

Nokho, ukuthethelelwa kwefilosofi yokukhuluma ngokukhululekile kudlulela ngalé kwenkulumo yezombangazwe. Isimiso sokulimaza, esahlongozwa uJohn Stuart Mill in On Liberty, sisikisela ukuthi "ukuphela kwenjongo okungasetshenziswa ngayo ngokufanelekile phezu kwanoma yiliphi ilungu lomphakathi ophucukile, ngokumelene nentando yakhe, ukuvimbela ukulimala kwabanye". Lesimiso siyavuma ukuthi nakuba ukuveza inkululeko kubalulekile, kumelwe kulinganiswe namalungelo nokuphepha kwabanye. Ukuqonda lokhu kulinganisela kubalulekile ekusebenziseni amalungelo akho okukhuluma ngendlela efanele.

Ukuqaphela Imingcele Engokomthetho Yokukhuluma Ngenkululeko Yokukhuluma

Nakuba inkululeko yokukhuluma iyilungelo eliyisisekelo, ayilinganiselwe. Inkululeko yokukhuluma nenkulumo ingase ingaqashelwa njengephelele, inemingcele ehlangene, ehlobene nokunyundela, ukuhlambalaza, izithombe ezingcolile, ukuvukela, ukulwa, amazwi enzondo, ukulwa, ukwaziswa okuhlelwa, ukuphulwa komthetho, ukugcinwa komgunyazo, izimfihlo, izivumelwano zokudla, ilungelo lokungaqiniseki, isithunzi, ilungelo lokukhohlakala, ukulondeka komphakathi, ukuhlambala nokweqa unyawo. Ukuqonda lemingcele kukusiza ukuba usebenzise amalungelo akho ngaphandle kokweqa imigqa engokomthetho engenza imiphumela.

Izinhlobo Zenkulumo Engavikelwanga

Isivikelo seSichibiyelo sokuqala sihlanganisa inkulumo enkulu nenkulumo, kodwa inemingcele yayo, eye yabekwa ngokucophelela emashumini amaningi eminyaka umthetho wecala ube yizigaba ezimbalwa zenkulumo ezingavikelwa iSichibiyelo Sokuqala. Ukujwayelana nalezi zigaba kukusiza ukuba uqonde ukuthi imingcele ikuphi.

Ukuhlobanisa isenzo esingagunyaziyo somthetho: inkulumo ehloselwe ukuvuselela umsebenzi ongekho emthethweni osheshayo futhi cishe ingenza isenzo esinjalo ayivikelwe. Icala le-Brandenburg v.Ohio limelela ukusikisela kokuba inkulumo ingavinjelwa kuphela uma ihlosiwe, futhi kungenzeka ukuba iveze, isenzo sokungabi namthetho esiseduze. Lokhu kusho ukuthi awunakusebenzisa inkulumo yakho ukuze ukhuthaze abanye ukuba benze ubugebengu noma ubudlova obuzokwenzeka ngokushesha.

Izisho eziyiqiniso zosongo: izisho eziveza inhloso engathi sína yokwenza ubudlova kumuntu othile noma iqembu elithile azinalo inkulumo evikelekile. Izinsongo zeqiniso zihlukile kwihaba noma ukukhulumela okungokombangazwe ngoba zihilela ukuveza inhloso eqotho yokulimaza. Ukuqonda lomehluko kubalulekile lapho uveza imibono enamandla noma ukukhungatheka.

Ukuqamba amanga: Izinkulumo ezingamanga ezilimaza idumela lothile zingaphumela ekubekeni icala elingokomthetho. Ukuhlubuka kuhlanganisa kokubili isoli (ukuhlambalaza okubhaliwe) nokunyundela (okushiwoyo). Lapho wenza izinkulumo eziyiqiniso ngabanye, ikakhulukazi izibalo zomphakathi noma amabhizinisi, ziqinisekisa ukuthi amazwi akho anembile noma abonakala ngokucacile njengombono kunokuba achazwe njengeqiniso.

Impahla ehlangabezana nokuhlolwa okukhethekile okungokomthetho kokungcola ayivikelekile. Nokho, incazelo yenhlamba ayihlanganisi inkulumo ecasulayo noma engcolile kakhulu. Indinganiso engokomthetho ifuna ukuba izinto zikhange ukuze zithakazelise, zibonise ukuziphatha kobulili ngendlela ehlazisayo, futhi zingenalwazi olunzulu, ngobuciko, ngezombangazwe, noma ngenani lezesayensi.

[[NT.0] Amagama aqinile:[[FT:1] Inkulumo yokuthi ngamazwi ayo alimazayo noma athambekele ekuvuseleleni igebe elisheshayo lokuthula alivikelwe. Nokho, lo mkhakha uthathwe kancane izinkantolo futhi usebenza kuphela ekubhekaneni nobudlova obuseduze.

Imingcele Yesikhathi, Indawo, Neyomuntu

Uhulumeni ngokuvamile angalinganisela isikhathi, indawo, noma indlela yokukhuluma, uma imingcele ingahlobene nalokho okushiwo yinkulumo futhi ishiya abantu benezindlela ezanele zokuveza imibono yabo. Lemingcele equkethwe ivumela ohulumeni ukuba balawule isikhathi, ukuthi kuphi, futhi kanjani ukukhuluma ngaphandle kokucubungula isigijimi ngokwaso.

Ngokwesibonelo, idolobha lingadinga imvume yokubonisa imiboniso emikhulu, linqabele ukusetshenziswa kwemibhobho ezindaweni zokuhlala ebusuku, noma lisho izindawo ezithile zokubhikisha. Lezimiso zifeza izithakazelo ezingokomthetho zikahulumeni ekulondolozeni ukuhleleka komphakathi, zivikela izakhamuzi emsindweni oweqisayo, futhi zilawule ukugeleza kwezimoto. Lapho zihlela ukusebenzisa amalungelo akho okukhuluma emphakathini, cwaninga izimiso zendawo ukuze kuqinisekiswe ukulalela kuyilapho zisakhuluma isigijimi sakho ngokuphumelelayo.

Ukulinganiselwa Okukhansela

Iziphetho zokuqala zeSichibiyelo ziyahluka kuye ngomongo wenkulumo. ISichibiyelo sokuqala sisebenza ezithengisweni zikahulumeni futhi asisebenzi emabhizinisini angawodwa, okusho ukuthi awunawo amalungelo okukhuluma ngokukhululekile emsebenzini, lapho umqashi wakho enelungelo lokuphoqelela khona ukunqandwa kwenkulumo yezombangazwe, inkulumo engokwenkolo nenhlamba. Ukuqonda lokhu kungafani okungokomongo kukusiza ukuba ulawule izindawo ezihlukahlukene ngendlela efanele.

Ezikoleni zemfundo, izikole zinegunya elikhulu lokulawula ukukhuluma kwabafundi kunezakhamuzi zikahulumeni ezikhulile. Izikole zingavimbela inkulumo ephazamisa kakhulu inqubo yemfundo, ukukhuthaza ukusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa okungekho emthethweni, noma enolimi olungcolile. Nokho, abafundi abalahlekelwa amalungelo abo omthetho-sisekelo esango lesikole, futhi izikole kumelwe zilinganisele umsebenzi wabo wemfundo namalungelo abafundi akhululekile.

Izisebenzi zikahulumeni nazo zibhekene nemingcele enkulumweni yazo engekho ezakhamuzini ezivamile. Abaqashi bomphakathi bangayala izisebenzi ngenxa yokukhuluma okuphazamisa ukuphumelela emsebenzini, ukuphazamisa ubuhlobo bezisebenzi, noma ukuhlobana nezindaba ezithinta isithakazelo somuntu siqu kuphela kunokuba zithinte umphakathi. Uma usebenzela inxusa likahulumeni, qonda izimiso zomqashi wakho nezindinganiso ezingokomthetho ezisebenza emazwini akho njengesisebenzi somphakathi.

Ukwazi Ukulalela Ngokuzikhandla

Ukusetshenziswa okuphumelelayo kokukhuluma akuyona nje indlela yokukhuluma ngokulinganayo ngokulalela. Ukulalelisisa ikhono lokugxilisa ingqondo ngokuphelele esikhulumini, ukuqonda lokho esikushoyo, siphendule futhi sicabangisise ngalokho okushiwoyo, futhi sigcine ukwaziswa kamuva. Lelikhono liguqula izingxoxo zisuka kulwazi olusuka koluhlanga olulodwa lube yizingxoxo eziqotho ezakha ukuqonda nokuxhumana.

Ukulalelisisa kumayelana nokuqinisekisa ukuthi omunye umuntu uzwiwa futhi uqondwa, ngemikhuba yokulalela okuhle ibalulekile ekuxhumaneni okuphumelelayo nobuhlobo obunempilo obukusiza ukuba ulungise ukungaqondani emsebenzini, wakhe ukuthembana nabantu othandana nabo, futhi uqinisekise umkhaya wakho nabangane ukuthi uzizwa uqashelwa futhi usekelwa. Uma ubonisa isithakazelo esiqotho emibonweni yabanye, baqala ukwamukela imibono yakho, bakha isisekelo sengxoxo ezuzisayo.

Izimiso Ezinhle Zokulalela Ngokuzikhandla

Kunamakhono okulalela akhuthele ayisithupha abaholi okufanele bawasebenzise, kuhlanganise nokunaka, ukugodla ukwahlulela, ukubonakalisa, ukucacisa, ukufushanisa, nokuhlanganyela.

Khathalela Ngokugcwele: Ukulalelisisa, nikeza umuntu okhulumayo ukunakekela kwakho okuphelele ngokunciphisa iziphazamiso, ukubheka emehlweni, nokugxilisa amehlo emagameni esikhulumi, iphimbo, nezwi, okubonisa ukuthi uyayazisa imizwa yomuntu nemibono yakhe. Susa ucingo lwakho, vala i-laptop yakho, futhi ususe ezinye iziphazamiso ezikuvimbela ukuba ube khona ngokugcwele engxoxweni.

Ukwahlulela okuqinile: Ukwenqaba isifiso sokuthatha impendulo yakho lapho omunye umuntu esakhuluma. Kunalokho, gxila ekuqondeni umbono wabo ngaphandle kokuhlola ngokushesha ukuthi uyavuma noma awuvumelani. Lokhu kuveza isimo sakho kukwenza ukwazi ukukuqonda ngokugcwele ngaphambi kokuba uzenze impendulo yakho.

Sebenzisa Ulimi Oluphakathi Lomzimba: ulimi lwakho lomzimba kanye nezici zobuso kufeza indima ebalulekile ekulaleleni okumatasa, ngakho gcina ukuma okuvulekile, uncike kancane, futhi usebenzise izikhangiso ezikhuthazayo ngaphandle komlomo njengokushaya umlomo nokumomomotheka ukubonisa isikhulumi ukuthi uhilelekile futhi unesithakazelo engxoxweni. Lezimpawu zezwi ziveza inhlonipho nesithakazelo ngisho nangaphambi kokuba ukhulume.

Bhekisisa futhi ubeke i-Classing: chaza lokho okuzwile ukuze uqinisekise ukuqonda kwakho. Buza imibuzo ecacisayo uma okuthile kungacaci. Lendlela iqinisekisa ukuqonda okuqondile futhi ibonise isikhulumi ukuthi uyaqhubeka uhlola isigijimi sazo. Ngokwesibonelo, ungase uthi, "Uma ngikuqonda kahle, ukhathazekile ..." noma "Ungangisiza ngiqonde ukuthi usho ukuthini..."

Ukwamukela Imizwelo: Uma ucabanga, kufanele udlulisele futhi usho imizwa yomuntu, ngokuvamile isekelwe ephimboni, olimini lomzimba, noma ekusebenziseni imizwelo, ngoba abantu abaningi abazizwanga ngokugcwele ngaphandle kokuba imizwelo yabo ivunywa, futhi ukubonisa imizwelo kwenza indawo ephephile futhi kuvumela isikhulumi ukuba siphume ekuvezeni imizwa siye enkingeni. Ukuqaphela isici esingokomzwelo sokuxhumana kwakha uzwela nokwethembana.

Ukunqoba Izithiyo Zokulalela Ngokuphumelelayo

Izithiyo eziningana ezivamile zingaphazamisa ukulalela okumatasa. Iziphazamiso zendawo ezungezile njengomsindo, iziphazamiso, noma izimo ezingajabulisi zenza kube nzima ukugxila kuzo. Khetha izindawo ezifanele zezingxoxo ezibalulekile lapho unganciphisa khona lokhu kuphazamisa.

Ukusabela okungokomzwelo ngamazwi athile noma imibono ethile kungase kubangele ukuba ugweme ukulalela.

Ukuphazanyiswa, ukukhuluma ngabanye, noma ukuvumela izingxoxo eziseceleni kululaza ukwethemba okubangelwa ukulalelwa, njengoba lemikhuba, ngisho nalapho ingebobobobo, ikhuluma ngokungenasineke, ngakho sebenzisani ukuyala kokulinda, ukulalela ngokugcwele, nokusabela ngokucabangela. Ukuhlakulela isineke nokuzilawula engxoxweni kubonisa inhlonipho futhi kwenza indawo yokuxoxa ngendlela enenjongo.

Ukulalela Ngomqondo

Ukuqonda kuyikhono lokuhlala ukhona futhi ulondoloze isimo sokungahluleli ngalokho obhekene nakho, futhi uma ukhumbula engxoxweni, uvala umsindo wangaphandle nowangaphakathi futhi ugxilise ingqondo ngokuphelele komunye umuntu. Lokhu kuqaphela ukulalelisisa kuguqula izinga lokusebenzelana kwakho futhi kujulise ukuqonda kwakho imibono yabanye.

Hlaziya ingqondo ngokuzijwayeza njalo. Ngaphambi kokuba ungene ezingxoxweni ezibalulekile, zinike isikhashana sokugxilisa ingqondo. Qaphela ukuphefumula kwakho, ukudambisa ukucindezeleka emzimbeni wakho, futhi ubeke inhloso yokukhuluma ngokugcwele. Phakathi nengxoxo, lapho uqaphela ingqondo yakho izulazula noma isabela ngendlela eyisici, ngokuzithoba, yenza ukunaka kwakho kubuyele kusikhulumi. Lokhu kuba lula ngokuphindaphinda futhi kuthuthukise ukukhulumisana kwakho.

Ukukhetha Amazwi Akho Ngokucophelela Nangokuqonda

Amazwi owakhethayo lapho usebenzisa amalungelo akho okukhuluma abaluleke kakhulu. Ukuma kolimi, ukuthonya imizwelo, nokunquma ukuthi umyalezo wakho uyomukelwa ngendlela eyakhayo noma evikelayo yini. Ukuthuthukisa ikhono lakho lokukhuluma kuthuthukisa ikhono lakho lokukhulumisana ngokuphumelelayo lapho uhlonipha abanye.

Ukukhuluma Ngokucacile Nokusheshayo Ekukhulumisaneni

Ulimi oludidayo ludala ukudideka nokungaqondi kahle. Uma uveza imibono yakho, lwela ukucacisa nokunemba. Chaza amagama ayinhloko, nikeza izibonelo ezithile, futhi ugweme ukuveza izilaleli zakho ukuthi aziqondi. Ukukhulumisana okucacile kuqinisekisa ukuthi umyalezo wakho wamukeleka ngokunembile futhi kunciphisa amathuba okuchazwa kabi.

Cabangela izilaleli zakho lapho ukhetha ulimi. Amagama afanele ochwepheshe emkhakheni angase adide izilaleli ezivamile. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuxabana okuyinkimbinkimbi lapho ukhuluma nezilaleli ezinolwazi kungabonakala kululaza.

Ukugwema Ukuhlambalaza Nolimi Lokuzikhukhumeza

Nakuba unelungelo elingokomthetho lokusebenzisa ulimi olunenzondo ezimweni eziningi, ukwenza kanjalo ngokuvamile kululaza isigijimi sakho futhi kubangele abantu abangase babe abangane bakho.

Lapho uxoxa ngezihloko eziphikisanayo, gwema isilingo sokusebenzisa ulimi oluvusa inkanuko ukuze nje ushaqeke. Kunalokho, gxila ezimpikiswaneni eziwubala eziveza izici ezifanele zale ndaba.

Cabangela ithonya elithatha isikhathi eside lamazwi akho. Kusukela enkathini yobuchwepheshe, izinkulumo ezishiwo kuyi-web site zingaqhubeka futhi zifinyelele izibukeli ezingaphezu kakhulu kwezakho ozihlosile. Amazwi akhulunywa ngentukuthelo noma ukukhungatheka angase akukhathaze eminyakeni ethile kamuva. Ngaphambi kokuba ubhale noma ukhulume, zibuze ukuthi ungekhululeka yini ngamazwi akho ahlanganyelwa kakhulu futhi ahlotshaniswa unomphela negama lakho.

Ukusebenzisa Inkulumo Ye-"I" Nombono Wakho

Ukwakhela izinkulumo zakho njengemibono yakho siqu kunoma amaqiniso aphelele. Ukusebenzisa "I" izinkulumo njenge "ngikholelwa," "Olwazini lwami," noma "Ngizwa" `Iyavuma ukuthi uveza umbono wakho kunokuba usho ukuthi ungokoqobo. Lendlela imema ingxoxo kunokuphikisana futhi inciphisa ukuzivikela kwabanye.

Ngokwesibonelo, kunokuba uthi "Unephutha kulomagazini," zama "uyibheka ngehlukile lendaba" noma "ukuqonda kwami kungu..." lolushintsho olucashile lolimi lugcina ukuhlonipha omunye umuntu kuyilapho uveza ukungaboni kahle. Idala indawo yokuba womabili aqondene futhi ihlolwe kunokuba ibheke ingxoxo njengempikiswano ye-zero-umncintiswano lapho umuntu kumelwe ukuba ulungile futhi ushiye okungalungile.

Ukwehluka Phakathi Kwamaqiniso Nemibono

Lapho usho amaqiniso, kulungele ukucaphuna imithombo ethembekile nobufakazi obubonisa ukuthi uveza imibono, yisho ukuthi iwumehluko owengeziwe.

Gwema ukuveza imibono njengamaqiniso noma ukwenza izinkulumo ezibanzi ngaphandle kobufakazi obusekelayo. Izinkulumo ezinjengo "Wonke umuntu uyazi ukuthi..." noma "Kusobala ukuthi..." ngokuvamile kufihla imibono njengamaqiniso asobala. Kunalokho, nikeza ukucabanga nobufakazi obukuholele eziphethweni zakho, uvumele abanye bahlole izimpikiswano zakho ngokufanele.

Ukuhlanganyela Ekukhulumeni Nasempikiswaneni Eyakhayo

Injongo eyinhloko yenkululeko yokukhuluma emphakathini wentando yeningi iwukuthuthukisa ukuxoxisana kwemibono eholela ekuqondeni kangcono nasekuhlakanipheni. Ingxoxo eqondile idinga okungaphezu nje kokugcizelela imibono yakho, kuhilela ukuhlanganyela nabanye ngezindlela ezithuthukisa ukuqondana nokushintsha izingqondo, kuhlanganise nezakho siqu.

Ukugxila Ezicini Ezingezona Ezingabalulekile

Impumelelo enikeza izimpikiswano nemibono kunokuhlasela abantu abawaphethe. I-Ad hominem ihlasela `isho ubuntu bomuntu, izisusa, noma isizinda sakhe kunezimpikiswano zabo" iyiziphakamiso ezinengqondo eziphazamisa ingxoxo ezuzisayo. Ngisho noma ungavumelani kakhulu nesikhundla sothile, gcinani nibahlonipha.

Uma uphendula izimpikiswano ophikisana nazo, sebenzisa indlela eqinile yokumelana nesikhundla esiphikisayo kunokuhlasela izinguqulo ezibuthakathaka noma ezisahlukumezi. Lesi simiso, esaziwa ngokuthi isimiso sokusiza abasweleyo, sidinga ukuba uchaze izimpikiswano zabanye ngokukhanya kwazo okungcono kakhulu ngaphambi kokuba uzinqume. Lendlela ibonisa ukwethembeka kokuhlakanipha futhi iholela ezingxoxweni ezilula.

Ukusekela Amazwi Obufakazi Nokucabanga

Lapho usho izinto eziyiqiniso, nikeza imithombo ethembekile nokwaziswa ukuze usekele ukuma kwakho. Chaza ukucabanga okuhlobanisa ubufakazi bakho neziphetho zakho. Le ndlela eyisigqizitshazo icela abanye ukuba bahlole izimpikiswano zakho ngokuhluzekile futhi bahlanganyele nazo ngendlela enenjongo.

Zimisele ukuvuma ukulinganiselwa kobufakazi bakho namandla okuphikisa. Akukho isikhundla esingenabo ubuthakathaka, futhi ukuvuma kubonisa ukwethembeka kwengqondo. Ungase uthi, "Nakuba lobu bufakazi busekela umbono wami, ngiyaqaphela ukuthi abusho lutho..." Lokhu kuvuma kuqinisa ukuthembeka kwakho futhi kumema ingxoxo ecacile.

Qikelela ukwaziswa ngaphambi kokuba ukudlulisele, ikakhulukazi enkathini yezindaba ezingelona iqiniso ne "izindaba ezikholisayo" Hlola imithombo eminingi ethembekile, cabangela ubuchwepheshe nobandlululo lwaleyo mithombo, futhi uqaphele ukuxoxa ngezinto ezivusa inkanuko ezibonakala zingeqisi. Ukusakaza ukwaziswa okungamanga, ngisho nangahlosile, kululaza ukuthembeka kwakho futhi kuneqhaza ekukhukhulekeni kwenkulumo yeningi efundile.

Ukubuza Imibuzo Ukuze Uqonde Ngokujule

Imibuzo ingamathuluzi anamandla engxoxo eqinile. Kunokuba uxazulule ngokushesha izikhundla ongavumelani nazo, buza imibuzo ukuze uyiqonde kangcono indlela ecabanga ngayo. Imibuzo enjengokuthi "Yini eyakwenza wafinyelela kuleso siphetho? noma "Ungangisiza ngiqonde ukuthi kungani ubheka kanjalo?" bonisa ilukuluku langempela futhi ngokuvamile wembule isisekelo esifanayo noma ukungaqondi kahle.

Sebenzisa imibuzo ephendulwe ngokukhululekile emema ukuxazululwa kunokubuza imibuzo evala ingxoxo. Gwema imibuzo ethwekhiwe equkethe ukucabangela noma ukusola. Umgomo ukuyiqonda ngobuqotho indlela omunye umuntu abheka ngayo izinto, hhayi ukubamba noma ukuthatha amaphuzu angenampendulo.

Uma abanye bekubuza imibuzo, yiphendule ngokuqondile nangobuqotho. Uma ungazi okuthile, kuvume kunokuba ukwenze uqheke. Ukuthobeka okungacunuli − ukuqaphela imingcele yolwazi lwakho.) Kwakha ukuthemba nohlobo lwesithembiso esiqotho esiholela engxoxweni ezuzisayo.

Ukuthola Isisekelo Esifanayo

Ukubona izindinganiso, imigomo noma izinto ezikhathazayo ezihlobene kudala isisekelo sengxoxo eyakhayo.

Ukuvuma ngokuphandle amaphuzu esivumelwano lapho evela. Izinkulumo ezinjengo "Ngivumelana nawe ukuthi..." noma "Sibonakala sikhathalela..." sakha ubuhlobo futhi sibonise ukuthi ulalela izindawo zokuhlangana, hhayi nje ukulungiselela ukuphikisa kwakho. Lendlela yenza abanye bakulungele ukucabangela umbono wakho ngamaphuzu lapho ungavumelani khona.

Ukwamukela Imiqondo Ephambene Nokuthobeka Okungaqondakali

Okunye okuzuzisa kakhulu ekukhulumeni ngokukhululekile ukuchayeka emibonweni ehlukahlukene ebekela imibono yethu inselele futhi yandise ukuqonda kwethu.

Ukuhlakulela Ukuthobeka Okunengqondo

Ukuthobeka kolwazi kuhilela ukuqaphela imingcele yolwazi lwakho nokuhlala uvulekile ekuboneni ukuthi izinkolelo zakho zingaba nephutha noma aziphelele. Lokhu akusho ukulahla izinkolelo zakho noma ukuphatha yonke imibono ngendlela efanayo. Kunalokho, kusho ukuqiniseka ngezinkolelo zakho ngokwaneleyo ukuba uthathe isinyathelo, kodwa uthambe ngokwanele ukuba uyibukeze ngokucabangela ubufakazi obusha noma izimpikiswano ezingcono.

Yamukela ukuthi abantu abahlakaniphile, abacabanga kahle bangafinyelela iziphetho ezihlukene ezisekelwe ekwazisweni okufanayo. Ukungafani kwezindinganiso, okuhlangenwe nakho, nezinqubo zokucabanga kuholela ekungavumelani okufanelekile. Ukuqaphela leliqiniso kukusiza ukuba ubhekane nokungavumelani ngelukuluku kunokudelela.

Zimisele ukuthi "Angazi" noma "Ngidinga ukucabanga ngalokho" lapho ubhekene nemibuzo noma izimpikiswano ongakaze uzicabangele ngokugcwele. Ukuvuma ukungaqiniseki kuwuphawu lwamandla okuhlakanipha, hhayi ubuthakathaka. Kubonisa ukuthi unesithakazelo esikhulu eqinisweni kunokuphumelela empikiswaneni.

Ukufuna Imibono Eguquguqukayo

Zibeke engozini yemibono ehlukile kweyakho. Funda izincwadi ezihlukene kwezombangazwe, hlanganyela nabantu bezizinda nezimiso zezinkolelo ezihlukene, futhi uzibeke inselele yokuqonda imibono oyithola ekuqaleni ingathandeki.

Gwema amagumbi onanelayo .Izimo lapho wonke umuntu evumelana khona nemibono yakho futhi aqinise izinkolelo zakho ezikhona. Nakuba lezi zindawo zinganika induduzo nomphakathi, zizokuvikela futhi emibonweni eyinselele futhi zingakuholela ekuncipheni kwezindawo. Ukulinganisela isikhathi emiphakathini efana nesemiphakathini egxile ezindaweni ezihlukahlukene.

Lapho uthola imibono ongavumelani nayo, melana nesifiso sokuyixosha ngokushesha. Kunalokho, zama ukuqonda ukuthi kungani othile engase abambelele kuleso sikhundla. Yiziphi izinto eziye zenzeka, izindinganiso, noma ukucabanga kwazo okwaholela kuleso siphetho? Lendlela yozwela ayikufuni ukuba uvumelane, kodwa ikusiza ukuba uqonde indlela ephelele yokubheka izinto ngale ndaba.

Ukushintsha Ingqondo Yakho Njengamandla

Bheka ukuguqula ingqondo yakho ukuze uphendule ubufakazi obusha noma izimpikiswano ezingcono njengezingamandla kunokuba zibe ubuthakathaka. Ukungaguquguquki kuwusizo, kodwa ukunamathela ngokuqinile ezikhundleni ezibhekene nobufakazi obuphikisanayo kuyinkani, hhayi ubuqotho. Ikhono lokuthuthukisa izinkolelo zakho libonisa ukwethembeka kokuhlakanipha nokuzinikela eqinisweni ngaphezu kobugovu.

Uma ushintsha isimo sakho endabeni ethile, sivume ngokukhululekile. Chaza ukuthi ukwaziswa okusha noma ukucabanga okusha kwaholela kumbono wakho obukeziwe. Lokhu kuveza ngokucacile uhlobo lwengqondo ekhulayo ukuze kube lula ukuxoxa ngokukhululekile. Kukhuthaza nabanye ukuba baqonde izinkolelo zabo ngendlela efanayo.

Ukuveza Izingxoxo Ezinzima Nezimpikiswano Ezinamandla

Ezinye izihloko zibangela imizwelo enamandla nokungavumelani okushubile. Ukuvumela lezingxoxo ezinzima kudinga amakhono engeziwe nokuzicabangela ukuze zivimbele ukuba zingangeni ezimpikiswaneni ezingakhiqizi noma zilimaza ubuhlobo.

Ukulawula Ukusabela Kwakho Okungokomzwelo

Imizwelo enamandla ingokwemvelo lapho uxoxa ngezindaba ozikhathalela kakhulu. Nokho, ukuvumela imizwelo ukuba ilawule ukusabela kwakho ngokuvamile kwenza ukukhulumisana okuphumelelayo.

Uma imizwelo inamandla kakhulu ukuba ingaqhubeka ngokukhiqizayo, kulungile ukuthatha ikhefu. Ungase uthi, "Ngidinga isikhathi sokulungisa lengxoxo. Singaqhubeka nalengxoxo kamuva? Lendlela ingcono kakhulu kunokusho izinto ngentukuthelo ozisola ngazo kamuva noma ezolimaza ubuhlobo unomphela.

Qaphela ukuthi ukusabela kwabanye ngokomzwelo kuyasebenza, ngisho noma ungakuboni. Uma othile ephatheke kabi phakathi nengxoxo, vuma imizwa yabo kunokuba ayishaye indiva. Izinkulumo ezinjengo "Ngingakubona kubaluleke ngempela kuwe" noma "Ngiyaqonda ukuthi lokhu kuyakhungathekisa" kuqinisekisa okuhlangenwe nakho kwabo okungokomzwelo ngaphandle kokuvumelana nokuma kwabo.

Izindlela Zokuhlukanisa

Uma izingxoxo zishuba, sebenzisa izindlela zokungakhulumi kahle ukuze ulungise ingxoxo. Uthoba izwi lakho kunokuba uliphakamise, kuvame ukubangela abanye ukuba bathule. Ukungakhulumi kahle kubambezela futhi ume, okudala indawo yokucabanga futhi kunciphise ubukhulu bengxoxo.

Yamukela amaphuzu asebenzayo ashiwo omunye umuntu, ngisho noma bebangavumelani. Lokhu kubonisa ukuthi ulalele futhi awumane ulindele ithuba lakho lokukhuluma. Kusiza omunye umuntu ukuba azizwe, okuvame ukunciphisa isidingo sabo sokuphikisana ngokunamandla.

Qedela ingxoxo kusukela ku-adversarial kuya ku-adval. Esikhundleni sokubheka ingxoxo njengempicabadala emelwe inqotshwe, yibeke njengomzamo ohlangene wokuqonda indaba eyinkimbinkimbi. Ungathi, "Sifuna ukuthola ikhambi elingcono kakhulu lapha. Masisebenze ndawonye ukuze siqonde zonke izici ezihilelekile"

Ukwazi Isikhathi Sokudukisa

Akuyona yonke ingxoxo efanelekile ukuba ixoxiswe, futhi akuyona yonke into edinga ukuxoxa ngempela. Qaphela ukuthi ingxoxo isiye yaba engakhiphi futhi izimisele ukulahla ngenhlonipho. izimpawu ezingase zihlanganise ukuhlasela komuntu siqu, ukwenqaba ukuhlanganyela ebufakazini noma ekucabangeni, izimpikiswano eziwuchungechunge ezingahambisani nenye into, noma ukuveza ukholo olubi komunye umuntu.

Uma usola, yenza kahle. Ungathi, “Angicabangi ukuthi sithuthuka lapha, ngakho ngizosuka kulengxoxo" noma "Sibonakala sinezingxabano eziyisisekelo esingazifuni ukuzixazulula manje" Gwema ukuhlukana ngezibhamu noma ukuthuka okubhebhethekisa ingxabano lapho uphuma.

Khumbula ukuthi ukuhlukanisa engxoxweni ethile akusho ukuyeka inkinga noma ubuhlobo. Kumane nje kuqaphele ukuthi le ngxoxo, ngalesi sikhathi, ayikhiqizi. Ungaphinde uphinde uxoxe ngendaba kamuva lapho imizwelo isipholile futhi bobabili sebesesimweni esingcono sengqondo sokuxoxa ngendlela eyakhayo.

Ukusebenzisa Inkululeko Yokukhuluma Ngokungenangqondo Emikhathini Yezinombolo

I-inthanethi nezokuxhumana ziye zandisa kakhulu amathuba okuveza inkululeko kuyilapho zidala izinselele ezintsha. Ukuxhumana ngemishini akunazo iziphakamiso eziningi ezisiza ukuqonda lapho kuxoxwa ubuso nobuso, futhi ukuhlala njalo nokufinyelela kwenkulumo kuyi-website kubangela ukucatshangelwa okuyingqayizivele.

Ukuqonda Imithetho Ehlukahlukene Nemithetho Ehlukahlukene

Iziteshi zezokuxhumana yizinhlangano ezizimele, hhayi izinhlangano zikahulumeni, okusho ukuthi iSichibiyelo Sokuqala asisebenzi ezinqumweni zazo zokulinganisela. Indawo ngayinye inezinqumo zayo zenkonzo neziqondiso zomphakathi ezilawula inkulumo eyamukelekayo. Zijwayelanise nalemithetho emapulatifomu oyisebenzisayo, njengoba ukuphula kungaphumela ekususweni kwento egcwele, ekushicilelweni i-akhawunti, noma ekuvinjelweni okuhlala njalo.

Ngaphandle kwemithetho ehleliwe, imiphakathi ehlukene ye-inthanethi inezimiso ezingafani namasiko. Okuvumelekile kwenye indawo kungaba okungafanele kwenye. Qaphela indlela yokuxhumana nokulindela yomphakathi ngaphambi kokuhlanganyela ngenkuthalo. Lokhu kuqaphela umphakathi kukusiza ukuba uhlanganyele ngokuphumelelayo futhi ugweme izingxabano ezingadingekile.

Ukukhuluma Kakhulu Nokufinyelela Izinombolo

Ngokungafani namazwi akhulunywayo aphela enkumbulweni, ukuxhumana ngemishini kungaqhubeka phakade futhi kusakazekele kude kakhulu kunezilaleli zakho. Izithombe zezithombe zigcina izigxobo ezicinyiweyo, imishini yokuhlola izitatimende zomphakathi, futhi amagciwane angafinyelela izigidi. Ngaphambi kokuba ufake noma yini kuyi-web site, cabangela ukuthi ungaba ngcono yini uma ubonwa abaqashi besikhathi esizayo, amalungu omkhaya, noma iminyaka yomphakathi kusukela manje.

Ukuxoxa kalula nge-inthanethi kusho ukuthi ungalahlekelwa umongo njengoba amazwi akho esakazeka. Inkulumo enengqondo engxoxweni ethile ingaqondwa ngokungeyikho uma ihlanganyelwa ekuzihlukaniseni. Cela ukuxhumana kwakho ne-inthanethi ukuze kucace futhi kuhloselwe wena, unciphise ingozi yokuchazwa kabi uma ingafanile nomongo wayo.

Ukulwa Nokwaziswa Okunganembile Nokungazwani

Ngaphambi kokuxoxa nabanye ngezindaba ezivusa isithakazelo noma izindaba eziqinisekisa izinkolelo zakho ezikhona, hlola ukunemba kwazo.

Ngezinye izikhathi, ukuhileleka ekushoni okusobala kumane nje kubenza baqaphele ukuthi ukuqondisa kufanelekile noma cha kungcono futhi lapho bengakunaki ukuqashelwa kungcono.

Uma uthola ukuthi uhlanganyele ukwaziswa okunganembile, vuma iphutha ngokushesha nangokucacile. Izinguquko zamuva ezibonakala ngendlela efanayo nephutha lokuqala. Lokhu kuthembeka kokuhlakanipha kulondoloza ukuthembeka kwakho nezithombe ze-ivolution.

Ukugwema I - Internet Nokuziphatha Kwesixuku

Izokuxhumana zingasiza izinhlangano ukuba zithathe isinyathelo ngezinjongo ezinhle, kodwa futhi zingasiza ukuba isixuku sibe nokuziphatha okulimazayo lapho abantu abaningi behlasela umuntu othile noma inhlangano ethile. Ngaphambi kokuba uhlanganyele ekugxekweni kothile kuyi-web site, cabangela ukuthi ukuhlanganyela kwakho kuyakha noma kuyanqwabelana. Zibuze ukuthi umuntu usuthole ukugxekwa okukhulu kakade, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi iqhaza lakho linezela ulwazi olusha noma umbono, nokuthi izinga lokusabela lilingana yini necala.

Khumbula ukuthi bakhona abantu abangokoqobo abafaka imininingwane ye - Internet, futhi ukuhlasela okuhlangene kungalimaza kakhulu ngokwengqondo. Ngisho noma kufanele ugxekwe, cabangela ukuthi ukuhlanganyela kwakho enqwabeni enkulu enqwabelene kufeza noma yini ewusizo noma kumane kunengxenye onyaneni.

Ukulinganisela Inkululeko Yokukhuluma Nezinye Izindinganiso Namalungelo

Nakuba inkululeko yokukhuluma iyilungelo eliyisisekelo, ikhona ngaphandle kwezinye izindinganiso namalungelo abalulekile ngezinye izikhathi abangela ukungezwani nawo.

Ukuba Wedwa Nesithunzi

Ilungelo lakho lokukhuluma ngokukhululekile kumelwe lilinganiswe mayelana namalungelo abanye ezindaba zomuntu siqu nesithunzi. Ukuhlanganyela ukwaziswa okuyimfihlo ngabanye ngaphandle kwemvume yabo, ngisho noma kuyiqiniso, kungabangela ukulimala futhi kungaba nemiphumela engokomthetho. Ngaphambi kokuxoxa nabanye obala, cabangela ukuthi unayo yini imvume yokuxoxa ngabo futhi noma ukwenza kanjalo kufeza injongo efanelekile ngaphandle kokuhleba noma ukuzijabulisa.

Hlonipha isithunzi sabantu ngisho nalapho ugxeka izenzo zabo noma imibono. Kunomehluko phakathi kokugxeka izinqubo eziqinile zezikhulu zikahulumeni noma izinkulumo kanye nokuhlasela okungathandeki ezicini zabo siqu noma ekuphileni kwabo siqu. Gxila inkulumo yakho ezindabeni ezithinta umphakathi ngokusemthethweni kunokuhlasela izinto zomuntu siqu.

Ukuphepha Nokuvimbela Izingozi

Ingabe amazwi akho ayobeka othile engozini yokulimala? Ingabe angabangela ubudlova noma ukuhlukunyezwa abantu noma amaqembu ayizisulu? Ngisho noma inkulumo yakho ivikelwe ngokomthetho, ukucabangela okufanelekile kungase kunikeze iseluleko sokuzibamba.

Lokhu akusho ukugwema yonke inkulumo ephikiswayo noma ukuzilimaza ukuze ugweme noma iliphi ithuba lokukhubeka. Kunalokho, kusho ukucabanga ngemiphumela engaphambili yamazwi akho nokuthatha umthwalo wemfanelo ngawo. Uma inkulumo yakho ilindele ukulimaza kakhulu, cabangela ukuthi inani lokuyiveza lidlula umonakalo ongase uwenze.

Umphakathi Nokubambisana Emphakathini

Izinhlangano zedemokrasi zixhomeke empucukweni nasenhloniphoni phakathi kwezakhamuzi ezingavumelaniyo. Nakuba kungadingeki ukuba zibe nesizotha, ukukhetha isimilo kusiza ekulondolozeni isisekelo somphakathi esenza kube nempumelelo. Inkulumo ecasulayo noma engahlonipheki ingavikelwa ngokomthetho kodwa ingangcolisa umthombo wenkulumo yeningi futhi yenza kube nzima ukuxoxa ngekusasa.

Lokhu akusho ukugwema ukugxeka okuqinile noma izikhundla eziphikisanayo. Ungaveza ukungavumelani okunamandla kuyilapho ulondoloza inhlonipho eyisisekelo kubantu. Umgomo ukungenela impikiswano enzima ngemibono kuyilapho ulondoloza ubuhlobo nokwethenjwa kwezenhlalo okwenza kube nempikiswano enjalo.

Ukuthuthukisa Izwi Nendlela Yakho Yokukhulumisana

Ukusebenzisa inkululeko yokukhuluma ngokuphumelelayo kuhilela ukuthuthukisa indlela yakho yokukhuluma eyiqiniso. Lenqubo ithatha isikhathi nokuzijwayeza kodwa iphumela ekukhulumeni ngokuqiniseka, ngokuthonya, nangokushukumisa.

Ukuthola Izwi Lakho Eliyiqiniso

Izwi lakho eliqotho libonisa imicabango yakho yangempela, izindinganiso, nobuntu. Akukona ukulingisa abanye noma ukwamukela ubuntu obungakufanele. Lizame ngezindlela ezihlukahlukene zenkulumo `electer, sho, khuluma, imithombo yezindaba −to ukuthola ukuthi yini engokwemvelo nengakuzuzisa kakhulu.

Naka izihloko nezinto ozithandayo. Izwi lakho linamandla kakhulu uma ukhuluma ngezinto ozikhathalela ngempela futhi ucabangisise ngazo. Ungazizwa ubophekile ukuba ube nemibono kuyo yonke impikiswano.

Ukuhlakulela Amakhono Okulala

Rhetoric() ubuciko bokuxhumana okuthonyayo − liyikhono elifundwayo. Funda abaxhumanisi abaphumelelayo futhi uhlaziye ukuthi yini eyenza ulimi lwabo lube olushukumisayo. Qaphela indlela abamisa ngayo izimpikiswano, basebenzise ngayo ubufakazi, basebenzise izingathekiso nezingatho, futhi baxhumane ngokomzwelo nezilaleli kuyilapho behlala beqinile.

Yenza izindlela ezihlukahlukene zokuxhumana. Bhala umhleli, izincwadi ezibhalwe phansi. Ukuhlanganyela ezingxoxweni, ezimpikiswaneni, noma emathunjini okukhuluma obala. Uhlobo ngalunye lwenkulumo luveza amakhono ahlukene futhi lukusiza ukuba ube umxhumanisi okwazi ukuxoxa nabanye. Funa impendulo kwabanye futhi uzimisele ukubukeza nokuthuthukisa ukukhulumisana kwakho okusekelwe kuleyo mpendulo.

Ukulandisa Nokuzisholo

Izindaba zomuntu siqu kanye nokulandisa kungamathuluzi anamandla okuxhumana. Ziveza izinto ezingekho ngqiqweni, zihlanganisa imizwelo nezilaleli, futhi zifanekise izimiso ngolwazi oluphilayo. Uma kufaneleka, xoxa ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho siqu ukuze ukhanyise izimpikiswano oxoxa ngazo.

Nokho, qaphela ukuthi ulandisa izindaba ezinjani. Okuhlangenwe nakho kwakho uzokuhlanganyela, kodwa qaphela ukutshela abanye izindaba ngaphandle kwemvume yabo. Uma uxoxa ngezindaba ezingakuthinti ngokuqondile, khulisa amazwi alabo abanolwazi oluqondile kunokuba ubakhulumele.

Ukufundisa Nokulingisa Abanye Ngenkulumo Ephumelelayo

Uma ungumzali, umfundisi, umphathi, noma umholi womphakathi, unamathuba okusiza abanye bathuthukise ikhono labo lokukhuluma ngokuphumelelayo nomthwalo wemfanelo. Indlela oxoxa ngayo njengesibonelo inethonya elinamandla kulabo abakuzungezile.

Ukwakha Izindawo Eziphephile Zokukhuluma

Izindawo ezibuswa abantu abazizwa bephephile lapho beveza imibono yabo ngaphandle kokwesaba ukuhlekwa usulu noma ukuziphindiselela. Lokhu akusho ukuvikela abantu ekungavumelani noma ekugxekweni, kodwa kunalokho kuqinisekisa ukuthi ukungezwani kuboniswa ngenhlonipho futhi imibono ehlukahlukene iyamukelwa.

Yenzani izimiso ezicacile zokukhulumisana emaqenjini eniwaholayo, nizikhanyele ukuthi ukuhlasela komuntu siqu akumukeleki kuyilapho kukhuthazwa impikiswano eshubile ngemibono.

Ukucabanga Okukhuthazayo

Siza abanye ukuba babe namakhono okucabanga ahluzekile abenza bakwazi ukuhlola ukwaziswa, bakha izimpikiswano ezinengqondo futhi bacabange ngezinto ezihlukile.

Khuthaza abantu ngelukuluku lokwazi kanye nokuzimisela ukuhlola izinto eziyinkimbinkimbi ngezindlela eziningi. Dumisani abantu ngokushintsha izingqondo zabo ngenxa yobufakazi obusha noma izinkulumo ezingcono, ziqinise ukuthi ukukhula kwengqondo kunamandla.

Ukukhuluma Nenkulumo Elimazayo

Uma uhlangana nenkulumo elimazayo, enenzondo, noma eyingozi, cabangela indlela yokusabela ngokuphumelelayo. Ngezinye izikhathi, ukuphikisana ngokuqondile kuyafaneleka. Ngezinye izikhathi, ingxoxo yangasese isebenza kakhulu. Kwezinye izimo, ukusabela okungcono kakhulu ukuthuthukisa amazwi ahlukile kunokunaka kakhulu inkulumo elimazayo.

Uma usesimweni segunya, kungadingeka uphoqelele imiphumela yenkulumo ephula imithetho emisiwe noma edala indawo ezungezile eyingozi. Linganisela indlela ekhululekile nesidingo sokulondoloza isivikelo, izindawo lapho wonke amazwi azwakala khona. Lokhu kulinganisela kuyinselele kodwa kubalulekile emiphakathini enempilo.

Qhubeka Ukhula Njengomxoxi Wezindaba

Ukuthuthukisa amakhono okusebenzisa inkululeko yakho yokukhuluma ngokuphumelelayo nangenhlonipho kuwuhambo oluhlala njalo.

Ukufuna Ukuzifunza Nokuzikhetha

Ngemva kwezingxoxo ezibalulekile noma izinkulumo zasobala, cabanga ngalokho okungcono nalokho ongase ukuthuthukise.

Funa amazwi aqotho abonisa ukuthi uthembekile kubangane, osebenza nabo, noma obeluleki. Bacele ukuba bakubonise indlela yokukhulumisana ongaziqapheli.

Ukufunda Emaphutha

Wonke umuntu wenza amaphutha okukhulumisana — ukusho izinto azisolayo kamuva, angaqondi kahle abanye, noma axazulule ukungaboni ngaso linye.

Ukwesaba ukwenza amaphutha kungakuthulisi. Ikhambi lenkulumo engaphelele ukuxoxa, veza imibono yakho, futhi ufunde kokuhlangenwe nakho. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, uzothuthukisa ikhono lakho nokwethemba ukusebenzisa amalungelo akho okukhuluma ngenkululeko ngokuphumelelayo nangenhlonipho.

Ukuhlala Unolwazi Futhi Uhlanganyela

Ukukhuluma okuphumelelayo kudinga ulwazi. Hlala wazi ngezinto ozikhathalelayo ngokufunda kabanzi, ngokuhlola imithombo ehlukahlukene, nangokuhlola okungochwepheshe. Uma wazi okuningi, iminikelo yakho enkulu enkulumweni yeningi iyoba yigugu ngokwengeziwe.

Hlala umatasa emiphakathini yakho (esendaweni yakini, ochwepheshe, i-ingosi ye-inthanethi, noma isithakazelo. Ukuhlanganyela njalo engxoxweni kukusiza ukuba uthuthukise amakhono akho okukhulumisana futhi ujulise ukuqonda kwakho izindaba eziyinkimbinkimbi. Kuhlanganisa futhi nabanye abahlanganyela isithakazelo sakho, ukwakha izinhlanganisela zezenzo kanye nokusekelana.

Imithombo Yemfundo Eqhubekayo

Imithombo eminingi ingakusiza ukuba uqhubeke uthuthukisa amakhono akho okukhulumisana nokuqonda izimiso zokukhululeka ekukhulumeni.

  • Isisekelo samalungelo omuntu ngamunye no-FOLT inikeza imithombo eminingi yamalungelo okukhuluma ngokukhululekile, ikakhulukazi emongweni wemfundo. Vikela ingosi yabo e- https:/wwww.hd.org yezokuqondisa, ukuhlola, nezincwadi.
  • I-Civil Liberties Union yaseMelika (ACLU) inikeza ukwaziswa mayelana namalungelo eSichibiyelo sokuqala nesivikelo esingokomthetho senkululeko yokukhuluma. Imithombo yabo isiza izakhamuzi ukuba ziqonde amalungelo azo nendlela yokuwasebenzisa ngokuphumelelayo.
  • Ukuhlanganisa kanye nokuxazulula izimpi ezifundweni zamakholiji, izikhungo zomphakathi, noma amapulatifomu ku-inthanethi kunganikeza amathuba okufunda ahlelwe kahle ukuthuthukisa amakhono akho.
  • Izincwadi eziphathelene nokukhuluma, ukuphikisana, nokuxhumana zinikeza ukujula okujulile emcabangweni nasekusebenziseni inkulumo ephumelelayo. Izincwadi ze-plogist ezikhulumayo zihlala zibalulekile, kuyilapho izincwadi zanamuhla zikhuluma ngezinselele zokuxhumana kwanamuhla.
  • [ Izikhungo, iziphathi, nezinhlangano ezifanayo [ zinikeza amathuba awusizo okuprakthiza ukukhuluma obala nokuphikisana endaweni esekelayo.

Isiphetho: Umkhuba Oqhubekayo Wokukhuluma Ngomthwalo Oqotho

Inkululeko yokukhuluma iyilungelo eliyigugu futhi iwumthwalo wemfanelo obalulekile. Ukusebenzisa le nkululeko ngokuphumelelayo nangenhlonipho kudinga ukunakwa, umkhuba, nokuzinikela ezimisweni ezidlulela ngalé kokuvunyelwana nje okungokomthetho. Kufuna ukuba silalele okuningi njengoba sikhuluma, ukuba sihileleke emibonweni kunokuba sihlasele abantu, ukuba sisekele lokho esikusho ngobufakazi nangokucabanga, nokuthi sihlale sikulungele ukubheka izinto ngendlela ehlukile kweyethu.

Amakhono nezimiso ezichazwe kulesi siqondiso − ukulalela ngokunenkuthalo, ukukhetha amagama ngokucophelela, ukuxoxa okwakha, ukuthobeka kokuhlakanipha, nokucabangela ithonya lenkulumo − akuwona amakhono angokwemvelo kodwa amakhono afundwayo athuthukayo ngokusebenzisa. Ingxoxo ngayinye inikeza ithuba lokucwengisisa lamakhono futhi ineqhaza ohlotsheni lwenkulumo yeningi eqinisa kunokuba ihlukanise imiphakathi.

Kulesi sikhathi sokuhlukana okukhulayo nokungathembani ezinhlanganweni, indlela esisebenzisa ngayo amalungelo ethu okukhuluma ibaluleke kakhulu kunanini ngaphambili. Ngokubonisa ukukhulumisana okuphumelelayo nokunenhlonipho, unezela enkulumweni yasobala engcono engasingatha izinselele eziyinkimbinkimbi, ibhuloho elihlukanisayo, nokuqonda okuqhubekayo. Izwi lakho linendaba, futhi lisebenzisa ngokuhlakanipha liqinisa ithonya layo.

Khumbula ukuthi umgomo wenkululeko yokukhuluma emphakathini wentando yeningi awukona ukuvumela wonke umuntu ukuba asho noma yini ayifunayo ngaphandle kwemiphumela. Kunalokho, kudala izimo lapho imibono engcono ingavela khona ngokuphambana okuvulekile, lapho iqiniso lingahlukaniswa khona namanga ngenkulumo yenkulumo ephikiswayo, nalapho izakhamuzi zingahlanganyela khona ngokunenjongo ekulolongeni ikusasa lazo elihlangene. Lombono wokukhuluma ngokukhululekile awudingi nje isivikelo esingokomthetho kodwa futhi udinga isiko lokukhulumisana elihloniphekayo, elihlonipha isithunzi somuntu, futhi elifuna ukuqonda ukungezwani.

Njengoba uqhubeka nohambo lwakho njengomxhumanisi nesakhamuzi, bhekisa phambili izimiso nemikhuba ehlolwa kulokhu kuqondisa. Khuluma ngokuqiniseka kodwa lalela ngokuthobeka. Khuluma amalungelo akho uhloniphe isithunzi sabanye. Hlanganyela ngamandla engxoxweni uqhubeke ulondoloza ubunye. Zibeke inselele imibono kuyilapho udumisa isintu salabo abawaphethe. Ngokwenza kanjalo, ngeke usebenzise inkululeko yakho yokukhuluma ngokuphumelelayo kakhulu kodwa uzosiza ekudaleni uhlobo lomphakathi lapho leyo nkululeko ingachuma khona ngempela kubo bonke abantu.